For sometime now we have been hearing news about ladies sending their nude pictures to their lovers, and some sending their nude pictures to some guys they hardly knew. Couple of weeks ago we heard that one of the Nollywood Actresses, Bimbo Thomas also sent her nude pictures to a fake lover she didn’t know already has a wife and children somewhere.
Today, teenage girls also send their nude pictures to their boyfriends. This is really getting rampant and enjoyable by everyone. But the question is: “Is it proper for a lady to send nude pictures of herself to a guy?”
There are so many reasons not to send nude pictures to anyone, but with nearly everyone having a cell phone, Facebook, Twitter, email and Instant Messaging, it’s all too easy to give in and snap a picture. Whether it’s for your boyfriend or a random flirty stranger online, girls of all ages are talked into exposing themselves for the camera every day. Some women think that sending a naughty picture to their boyfriend will tempt him into some fun later on in the day, but there are other ways to get their attention!
Take a look at few reasons why it is improper to send your nude pictures to anyone:
1. SOCIAL MEDIA:
I have a love/hate relationship with Facebook. I love that it keeps everyone connected but I truly hate how easy it makes it to bully, stalk and harass people. Everyone thinks the relationship they’re in is going to last, but the harsh truth is that most relationships, when they end, don’t end on the best of terms. Things can get nasty and complicated. If your ex gets mad or vindictive enough, those nude pics you sent him two years ago that he saved could do some damage to your reputation. You don’t want all of your friends, his friends or the general public seeing you naked. It is way too easy to forward a photo to anyone and everyone using social media or text messaging.
2. PERIOD OF TIME
Once a photo is put online you never know how long it will be there. Even if you manage to get it taken down from one website, who knows how many others it may be on. Even if you make your partner promise to delete the pic as soon as they see it, that isn’t a guarantee that they actually will. I know I’ve kept pictures for years after I had promised to delete them, and I know I’m certainly not the only one.
3. LOSING YOUR PHONE
Phones get lost or stolen ALL the time. You don’t want someone to pick up your love interest’s phone and see those pictures of you. Just because your boyfriend/girlfriend is caring enough not to spread that picture around, that doesn’t mean that everyone who may see it will be as responsible. Even if it’s a friend who is just looking through the phone for something else, he or she may come across that picture. You don’t want to have to worry about that.
4. BLACKMAIL
A teenage girl was in an abusive relationship when she was 19. She didn’t LET the guy take naked photos of her, he just did it. When she broke up with him because of the abuse, he cornered her after work one day with copies of the pictures and told her if she didn’t go with him, he would make sure her parents and all of her friends saw every single one of those pictures. If you’re in this girl’s situation what will you do?
5. TRUST
One of the reasons ladies send nude pictures is because they TRUST the guy they are sending the pic to, believing the guy is the right guy for them and he won’t disappoint or break their heart. Ladies, don’t ever put yourself in that position by freely sending nudes of yourself to anyone. People can change. Someone who seems like a trustworthy, wonderful person right now may not be down the line. Let us learn a lesson from Nollywood Actress, Bimbo Thomas.
I hope that these reasons not to send nude photos to anyone will enter your mind next time you’re debating whether or not to send one?
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Nollywood: Actress Bimbo regrets sending nudé photos
It’s sad but could have been avoided if she didn’t allow love becloud her senses:
Nollywood actress, Bimbo Thomas was having an affair with a man who she didn’t know already has a wife and children somewhere. She got so blinding by the love that she took nudé photos of herself and send them to this fake lover. Now the man has dumped her and returned to his wife and children.
Below are the revelations of the actress nudé photo saga…“Yes, I have been in love before and I have been involved in relationships I thought was love but wasn’t.. There was this relationship I thought would lead to the altar. I was committed to it and the guy was committed too but it still didn’t work out. We are still friends though. When I came out of that relationship, I didn’t want to date again. I just wanted to be left alone but you know women and love; I found another guy, he was the kind of guy one will call a gentleman. I fell in love with him; I could do anything for him. I even made a mistake that still tugs at my conscience till date; I sent him my unclad photos.
“Looking back now, it was one mistake too many especially when I realized the guy was deceiving me as he was married with children. I cried and cried! I almost gave up on everything, but God kept me.
“Yes, it is a stupid mistake but you know celebrities are humans too. We hurt, we laugh, we cry, we love, we grief and do everything every other human being does. We fall in love and make mistakes. Though we fall down like the Bible would say, but we can’t stay down, we get up and keep forging ahead. Many guys that approach female celebrities have evil intentions.
“Dating is now something I dread. I don’t think I will give up on love but the next guy might pay for the sins of others.”
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